What happened to me? (我究竟怎麼了?)

Updated: Jul 13, 2019

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When facing pain, whether It’s physical or emotional. People are tended to “fly or fight” mode. It’s absolutely normal as human being choose to distract, neglect, deny our pain, or even take painkillers. But it’s not the real solution to make the pain go away. As long as we can still bear the pain, normally we choose to use our mind to control it or use drugs to suppress it. Until someday, we no longer endure the pain, or when it becomes a serious disease to crush us. Then we are starting and willing to understand ourselves and to care for our own pain.


The body can take tremendous stress, anger, pain and so on. In these 1-2 years learned to connect my emotion with my body sensation. Then I realized that we are not only not to love ourselves but also are harsh on ourselves in every possible way. Here when I said “we don't love ourselves” – it means mentally, NOT physically.


In this case, she has a lot of trauma and has suppressed her feelings for many years. My heart hurt even just listening her stories. I can't imagine how she has been through and come this far. She is willing to open her heart to me and deal with it. In the past few years, she felt so weak and also went to see the doctors, tried energy healing, tapping and so on. But nothing could help her. Even it did, just for very short period of time. She can’t recover and all she wants just a little – to have her fully strength back and have normally life like everyone else.

I believe the reason to cause her physical body weak is some trauma. But there are so many, which direction? What it is?


In the past six months, I found out that I’ve begun to integrate what I have learned in past 6~7 years and become my own method. I combine hypnosis with quantum touch. In hypnosis I combine self-guided healing; in Life Centered Therapy, I add hypnosis and energy heal – Quantum Touch. As for what method to use, it depends on client’s need and conditions. And more often, when I have NO direction at all, I trust my intuition to guide me and help the client.


Finally we found her wounds..... It turned out that she buried herself in deep regret. A very close relative of hers past away. She couldn’t make it to see him in the very last day. She didn't allow herself to think of him, nor did allow herself to have any happiness. Even though she "never had the thought” of being weak. But her "subconscious mind made a choice" for her. If her physical body was weak and she was unable to do things she likes and wants, so she couldn't be happy!


I explained it to her at first, but she couldn't fully understand it at first. So I asked her: "When does your body start to getting weak? And when did you lost him? She suddenly realized ~~~~When I left her house, she felt much better and become stronger physically. I’m so happy for her and so pride of her. And happy that I can help her out.


In a lot of situations our brain and mind can't understood why we’re getting sick. It only makes sense when we go deeper into our subconscious and soul level to figure that out. In the process of healing myself, I love myself more and understand myself more. Most importantly I have much more "empathy" to understand people and put myself in their positions. We’re all human being and all we want is to be loved and accepted – no matter who we are. It’s unconditional love. I’m so happy that I can start to help the others now.


And how much do you love yourself?


面對疼痛,不論是身體或心裡層面,人很本能展現出「戰或逃」的本能,舉凡分散注意力、 忽視不理會、否認、或是吃止痛藥,但這些都是治標不治本的方式。只要疼痛還在我們「忍受範圍」內,我們會用我的頭腦、心智來對抗它,或用藥物來抑制它。直到某一天無法再忍受那疼痛,或是轉變成嚴重的疾病,將我們擊潰,我們才開始願意去了解自己,去關懷自己的傷痛。


身體的忍受力很大,這1~2年我學習把情緒跟身體連結,才發現我們有多麼不愛自己,對自己的批判有多麼嚴格。我的不愛自己,指是心靈層次上,不是指物質上的。


在我療癒的個案中,這位有好多創傷,也壓抑了自己感受多年,她的許多創傷讓人心疼,,我真的無法想像,究竟她怎麼熬這些年頭的。她願意打開心房,面對自己,療癒自己的傷痛。這幾年,她體力很差,一直都沒有改善,就算好一些,也很快的流失掉能量。嘗試了很多方法,中西醫、EFT情緒敲打、能量療法....等,使終於無法讓她恢復體力,她只能希望能有體力讓她的生活作息正常,這麼簡單又小的願望。


我相信她虛弱的體力,應該起源某個創傷,但創傷這麼多,是哪個方向?又是什麼呢?


這半年來,我發現我已經開始在整合我這6~7年所學的,變成我自己的一套方法。

量子觸療裡我結合催眠;

催眠與自我療癒的方法結合;

生命中心療法裡,我加入催眠、量子觸療。

至於用什麼方式為主,端看當事人的需求跟狀況。而更多的時候,當我也沒有方向,只能信任自己的直覺,來幫我抽絲剝繭。


於是這個故事裡我們找到的她的創傷....原來她把自己深埋在遺憾裡,一位她很親近的親人過逝,來不及見上最後一面。於是她不允許自己想起那個人,也不允許自己有任何快樂的念頭。雖然她「從來沒有想要」身體虛弱,但她的「潛意識卻是選擇」讓她身體虛弱而無法做她任何想做的事,這樣她便無法快樂!


一開始我解釋給她聽,她還無法完全理解,於是我問她:「你身體不舒服什麼時候開始?親人過逝又是什麼時候呢?」她才恍然大悟~~~~離開她家的時候,她體力明顯好很多,而且也一直在恢復中,真的好替她開心,也覺得她好棒、好勇敢!


身體的很多狀況,真的無法用大腦來理解或知道,只能進入更深的層次去發掘。很開心,在自我療癒的過程中,我找回了自己,也更愛自己。同時我也擁有更多的「同理心」去了解並理解他們,因為人都是希望被愛、被接納,有歸屬感。更重要的是,我~~~現在也可以開始幫助其他人了。


而你,有多愛你自己呢?

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