Is That Even Possible to Love Myself? 愛自己可能嗎?

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MeiMei had never liked her appearance, even in her most fit condition. She has been seeking something/someone to fulfill her incomplete feeling but never succeed. She is not easy to fall asleep, even she does, the sleep quality is poor. She focuses on her kids like most moms, with little time interacting with her husband. The more she tries to love herself, the harder it gets. She has gradually lost patience with her children and is on the edge of emotional outbursts often. It seems that things are going to totally opposite direction of what she expects. Like most of people, shopping, sweet or food are stimulus to make her released, happy and relaxed. Are you her?

She was worried when she came to me because she had no experience in any session. After a 30-minute free consultation, she wanted to have a try. From situations she described above, we utilized it as a doorway to find her corresponding physical body sensations, which helped us find out the “root cause story, where the traumas originate. She felt choked and couldn’t breathe at all. We went to a theme that she was so familiar with when she was little and thought she handling well. How could it be an issue? She asked! At that moment she was totally breakdown. Every word of her father said to her before like a knife penetrated into her heart and stabbed her deeply and hurt like the hell. Her dad teased she was fat, ugly, never good enough…etc.. She felt so angry and her chest felt like the volcano waiting for the outburst. This heat and anger stuck and trapped in her body. Even though rationally she understood why her father said something like that, emotionally she never handled/integrated well, even she wanted to after she grew up. That heavy dense energy still stuck inside of her body. She knew her father loved her but used the wrong way to express. He hoped she became better and never ended like him. He didn’t know what he said caused her dramatic pain. Can you see the conflict between the mind and body? They are two extreme!!!

We went back to the time when the incident happened, let her inner child made peace with her father. She finally could forgive her father and was willing to let things go. Finally, she can take a nice long "deep breath" which she had not been able to for a long time. What a relief!

About 1 week after the session, MeiMei told me her changes. She could do things below effortlessly. It happens so naturally, like a miracle.

  1. The biggest change: she feels calmer and has a peaceful of mind most of time compared to before. She becomes joyful when she is with the kids.

  2. She used to feel like making improvements all the time, but now when she looks herself in the mirror, she doesn’t feel discomfort nor upset.

  3. She tended to resolve her anxiety through food, but now there is no need for her to do that in the past week.

  4. She can accept the way she is, not the way people expect her to be.

I hope this article can help people understand what kind of service or assistance they can get from here. In most of situation our mind and subconsciousness are two extremes and even conflict. That’s why people need professional help.

小美一直都沒喜歡過自己的外表,即便是她人生最瘦的時期,生命中總是覺得缺點什麼。她不容易入眠,睡眠品質也不佳,每天繞著小孩轉,跟老公能互動的時間少之又少。她越是想嘗試愛自己,就越做不到,甚至對孩子也漸漸失去耐性,情緒一直都是在(累積→爆炸)中循環、遊走,一整個鬼打牆。好像事情都往她期待的另一個方向走,甚至必須靠外境,像購物、飲食來讓自己變得快樂,看到這很多人應該都心有那種…「我也是這樣!」的感受吧!

她來找我時候有點擔心、害怕,因為她從來沒有做過相類似的療程,沒想到30分鐘的咨詢後,就順水推舟完成的整個療癒。從她上面情境的描述,找出她相對應的身體感覺,很多時候她都難以呼吸,接著我們從她身體的這些感覺進入故事主題,一個她再也熟悉不過的議題,她也以為完全處理好的情緒,在此刻完全潰堤。她爸爸的每一字、每一句深入她內心,刺痛了她........爸爸的諸多挑剔,覺得她好胖、好醜、不夠好....等,整個怒火滿溢到胸口像燒燙的岩漿,但這股怒火卻偏偏卡在身體裡出不來,雖然長大後她明瞭父親背後真正的用意是「希望她更好,不想她長大後像他一樣,但父親並不知道這樣的話語會傷她這麼重,一直到成年如影隨形!」這就是身體與理智的不同調!

於是我們回到事發的當時,讓父親與自己的內在小孩和解,終於她能完全放下,享受長久以來她一直無法做到的「深呼吸」!

下面是小美做完療程後給我的回應,她覺得太神奇了,怎麼會有這樣的轉變,完全不用刻意,而且是自然而然發生的。

  1. 改變最大的部分:情緒上真的穩定很多,面對小孩情緒也比較穩定。

  2. 現在看到鏡子裡的自己,不會像之前,覺得心煩,以前看到自己會有「可以再更好」的感覺。

  3. 我以前有用食物排解焦慮的傾向,這周完全沒出現這樣的感覺。

  4. 可以正面直視,心裡很平靜的認知,認為這就是我的樣子。

希望這篇文章能幫助有需要的人,可以了解在這我這裡,你能找到什麼樣的協助,往往我們的頭腦的理智和深埋的潛意識,是二個極端,這往往是一般人無法用大腦來理解或處理,所以才需專業的幫忙啊!



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