Can we just be friends? 只想當朋友

Updated: Oct 24, 2019

(中文在下面)

Most of us including me had experience that knowing someone wasn't right fit but you jsut can't leave. Your ration is disconnected with your emotion. So does my client!


Her Highest Priority Intention: Treat her colleague just like ordinary friend. Emotions are not affected by him.


Muscle testing showed she had 2 layers of patterns. 1st pattern was "Fractured Boundaries Pattern" and underneath is "Reversed Belief Pattern".


My client told me that she never thought her father had such great impact on her life until this session. She grew up in a single family and never met her father. She doesn't even know subconsciously she feet not wanted and unlovable. She also had belief that "Extreme pleasure is followed by sorrow". The interaction with her colleague triggered her childhood belief of not wanted and unlovable. If I wasn't good enough? That's why I wan't important? That's why he treated me like this? Only after unblocking this bottom layer pattern, we could effectively deal with "Fractured Boundaries Pattern", which occurs when a person has had a significant trauma that it fractures the person's energy field.


Muscle testing also showed it occured at her age 11 and related to parents. My client however had no clue of what happened then. Through body sensation, she told me a story: Without father's help, her mom took care of whole family including her grandma, the sister and cousins. Mom worked very hard with no one help. She was angry at herself and every single person living with her. She felt/saw herself sitting in front of desk in her childhood room where exactly reminded her of age 11. ( The process of Life Centered Therapy brings you to the "root cause story" is very similar like the trance in hypnotherapy. )


My client told me she never thought her father had such great impact on her life b'coz they never met. However the fact was so far away from what she thought. Certain memories she no long remembered also had deeply and invisibly affected her life.


After a month, she told me she could see through the relationship with her colleague; he has less and less influences on her. What a therapist does is to help the client find out the problem they're stuck and see through it. After all, everyone has to make their own decision.


Every session in order to have long lasting healing result, I'll balance your energy with the intervention(s) after we find the root caused story.


I'm here to be with you and help you!


大多數人都有這經驗…...某位異性朋友總能輕易的勾起你的感覺,明知道不適合或只想當普通朋友,理智與情緒不斷拉扯、知道卻做不到!或是做到了,心卻難過到了極點!這位個案就是如此~~~直覺就告訴我跟原生家庭的父母親相關~~~


她的治療目標:把對方當普通朋友,情緒不因對方行為而受影響。

肌肉測試告訴我:她無法做到的原因受雙重障礙模式影響 。

上層是:「破裂的界限障礙模式」,然後從這再延伸出下層的「信念的障礙模式」。


兒時沒有父親的陪伴,加上成長環境,一個無形的信念一直跟隨著她,那就是「沒有人想要我,我是不被愛的」,有這信念的她,當然是"無意識的"。同時她也有「我不能太快樂,因為快樂之後就會有災難發生」。與那異性的互動,引發年幼深埋在心裡的感受「是不是因為我不好,所以他才不重視我?才會用這樣的態度對我?所以我不重要、我是不被愛的!」。理智因為這深層的無意識信念才無法控制自己的情感,才會這麼糾結。這層解開後,我們才能有效處理上層的「破裂的界限障礙模式」:指的是當一個人受到重大創傷後 以致於他的能量場受到破壞,能量會不斷的流失。


肌肉測試也告訴我們,創傷發生在11歲。當我問:11歲有讓她回想起什麼事件嗎?她搖搖頭。


這創傷起於沒有父親的陪伴,媽媽扛下全家重擔,加上其他親戚也跟她們一起住,媽媽更加辛苦。她氣自己,氣姐姐,也生氣其他跟她住一起的人。她感受/看到自己坐在兒時的房間書桌前生著氣,那的確是11歲時發生的事。(生命中心療法帶你回到創傷起源過程,其過程與催眠過程非常相似)


一開始與個案聊的時候,她說其實從來不覺得父親這角度對她生活有什麼影響,因為從來也沒見過父親。在療程中她才發現事實與她理智相差甚遠。而一些小時候早已不記得的感受與事件,卻在無形中深深影響了她。


個案後來跟我說,對於那位異性她已能釐清與他的互動與關係,而她的情緒也漸漸的不同他影響。我們治療師做的是幫助個案找出被困住的點,幫他們看清問題點,而非幫他們做決定。每個人都有其生命歷程,最終決定權還是在自己。


當然每個療程,我們不只是找出故事源頭,還會幫你平衡你的情緒,這樣療程才會有效果。


有什麼走不出來或鬼打牆的事件或情緒嗎?只要你願意,讓我陪你一起走!




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