Letting go~~~(終於可以放手了~~~)

Updated: Jun 26, 2019

(Chinese is underneath)

Life is like a movie; everyone is creating and experiencing their own lives in a unique way. We often use our own life experience to look at the stories of others, so we fall into the trap of right and wrong or misunderstanding situation. We have forgotten that "every soul has its own experience, so no one is absolutely right or absolutely wrong." Take your kindness and love to feel true meaning behind every single story.


This girl told me that anything she wants to do, she could do it and make it happen, except one thing. There is a man, whom she has been in love with for years. She knows he isn't right fit and tries to break up so many time. She could never make it happen and suffers a lot from it. She feels painful and helpless. We all have such kind of friend like this girl around us. It sounds so familiar, isn't it?


She said "I know I have so much father kind of feeling toward him and tries leave him, but it never succeed."


While she was telling me the stories, I utilize hypnosis metaphor technique to deal with this issue.


She said "There is a thick, bulky, dark gold chain that is binding me so tight and I can't breath."


I asked "Do you want to cut that chain?"

She hesitated...then she said, "I want to burn it with fire and have no ash left."


When she tried to burn the chain, she cried badly and said "I'm so sorry, I'm so sorry, I'm so sorry, I'm so sorry,....!"She told me that the sorry is not for that man but for her father instead. It seems by burning that bulky chain she would lost connection with her father, which make her so terrified and scared.


Have you seen the real issue here? She had a lot of father's projections in that man and tried to have his love to make up the love she never had from her father. Without disconnect father's feeling with that man, it would be impossible to leave that man. That's why no matter how hard she tried, she could never leave him.


After pined point the problem, it's easier to complete with healing part. After session she said: "It's been such long time to not to have such kind of feeling, free and relaxed."


This work made me more empathetic and compassionate. We're all come to learn on earth.


人生如戲,每個人都在用獨特的方式創造與經驗自己的生命。我們習慣性地用自己的人生經驗來看待他人的故事,於是陷入是非對錯間、對立、誤解。我們忘記了「每一個靈魂都有自己的經歷,因此沒有一個人是絕對正確,或是絕對錯誤」。我們必須先跳脫二元對立的幻象,才能明白每一段關係裡都是愛。帶著你仁慈與用心去看見每個人背後的故事。


這女生受感情困擾很多年了,她說只要她想做的事,她都能做到,唯獨感情。她與這個男生相戀多年,知道他並不是合適的對象,想斷又斷不了,分分合合很多次,她非常的痛苦。這樣的故事大家應該都不陌生吧!


她說:「在他身上看到很多父親的影子,也試過很多方法離開他,但分了又合。」

順著她的故事,用催眠的方法去處理這多年的議題~~~


她說:「有一條很粗、很粗的金色又暗的鐵鍊,捆綁著我好難受」。

我問:「你想剪斷它嗎?」 她猶豫了......然後她說:「我確定,我不想要那鐵鍊了,但我想要用火狠狠的燒,燒的一乾二淨,一點灰燼也不想剩」。


當她燒著鐵鍊的時候,眼淚直流並說:「對不起、對不起、對不起、對不起!」

但她告訴我這個對不起不是對那個男孩子說的,而是對她爸爸仿佛這把火會把她跟爸爸之間的連結燒斷,燒的一點兒也不留。


你看到問題點了嗎?她在那男孩子身上感受到許多她對父親的投射,她試圖從他身上去彌補那份對父愛的缺憾。得先中止她在那男孩身上對父親投射的感覺,她才有辦法斷絕這關係。這也是為什麼這麼多年無論她多麼努力嘗試卻又無法離開的原因。


找出問題癥結點,再帶著她做療癒。結束後她說:「好久沒有這種輕鬆自在的感覺了!」


這工作讓我更有同理心與慈悲心,我學會丟掉自己的偏光鏡 ,每一個人都是來地球學習的。






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